Effects of bulimia on intimate and sexual relationships

Effects of bulimia on intimate and sexual relationships

Bulimia affects many areas of a sufferer's life. One of the most affected areas is the area of ​​relationships (particularly intimate and sexual relationships).

The latest research found that:

– People with bulimia have insecure relationships with partners.

– have poor quality or lack of intimate relationships.

– Experience self-silence and confidence during sexual activities.

– Bulimic women attempt to change themselves to meet their partners’ perceived expectations.

– Bulimics often have a negative attitude toward their partners and feel like they are always attracting the wrong person.

– Some bulimics avoid intimate relationships completely, replacing them with their bulimia.

– Many believe that if they had to choose between bulimia and an intimate partner, they would choose bulimia.

Why do all of these happen?

The answer would probably be that bulimia as a state of mind is based on feelings of emotional secrecy, guilt, shame and fear. All of these negative feelings override the emotions on which stable intimate relationships are built. It is obvious to everyone that it is impossible to build loving relationships out of guilt and shame.

Many sufferers treat their partners the same way they treat food and drink: unrealistically. They can literally "binge" their relationships, have numerous partners and be promiscuous for some time, but later "clean up" them by being insufferable, rejecting everyone, blaming and ruining the good relationships they once had.

Refusal to grow up is also an important part of this disease. By changing her body and stopping her menstruation (a condition known as amenorrhea), the woman reverts to childhood and avoids the challenges of normal adults (which include relationships, sex, having children, and having a job).

Some patients manage to get married and have children, but their relationships do not bring them the proper satisfaction that they normally expect from marriage. This can have various reasons:

1. Bulimics are dissatisfied with themselves.

2. Because of their insecurities and feelings of guilt, they can also attract a person with psychological problems (insecure, unstable and addicted to something).

3. The addiction to binge and purge can become so severe that it becomes unmanageable and your marriage can end as a result.

Coexisting personality disorders and other mental illnesses also play a role in what bulimics do with their relationships. It is not uncommon for people with bulimia to suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, panic disorder, self-mutilation, alcoholism, drug addiction, and others.

The simultaneous presence of a disease is an additional complication for the development of intimate relationships, often making it impossible to establish and / or maintain relationships?

What is a solution to all this?

By diverting the person's attention from food, weight, body image, and quieting the brain from "useless chatter," this is a good first step in helping bulimics overcome their suffering.

Another option is to work with the patient's subconscious and remove the unconscious blocks that caused bulimia. You need to replace bad bulimic feelings with positive constructive behaviors.

In this way, sufferers can rekindle their existing relationships that have turned sour due to their bulimia, or build new positive and healthy relationships with the person they like.

Conclusion: First and foremost, those with bulimia need to take a step back and realize that it is bulimia that is destroying their chances of having a complete and satisfying relationship.

Being secretive and secretive about your bulimia is not conducive to a successful relationship. Blaming their partners for their shortcomings and looking for an easy way out so they can continue their erratic behavior won't help.

The sufferer must begin to consciously identify and analyze their feelings to determine if it is the bulimia nervosa talking. If this is the case, they need to reject it immediately and change those thoughts to better, more positive ones.

For example: Instead of thinking about all the negative things about your partner, think about all the good points they have.

The bulimia nervosa needs to overcome its designed pre-programming or the unconscious blocks that hold it back. Mindful awareness has the best result in reprogramming the subconscious mind.

Inspired by Irina Webster